ELIMINATING THE PACIFIER

"When babies cry there is always a reason, whether it is apparent to us or not.  Over time we get better at understanding what our baby is trying to say.  But early in that relationship, and at times later on, we may find it difficult to know why they are crying.  It can be so painful to hear their crying and not know what to do.  It can be so incredibly hard to just be with them through their crying, hard as it is, confessing to them that we wish we could understand what they were saying.  Yet when we do that perhaps they get the message, even as they cry, that 'People try to understand me.'  Perhaps they see human relationship as a beautiful thing, through good times and bad.  When a pacifier is put into their mouth, they get another message: 'People don't like it when I cry.'  They may see human relationship as something to turn to when all is well, but objects are more reliable when in pain." 

Judi Orion & Paul Pillai, On the Use of a Pacifier


Pacifiers have become a very common and widely used object during the beginning of life.  Most new parents are given at least a few pacifiers from the start.  However, pacifiers often become an addictive and unnecessary object for the child.  

Along with the barrier created for healthy human relationships, pacifiers also impede a child's ability to speak, and if used too often can even change the structure of the mouth and the child's awareness of his/her own body scheme.  

Together we will formulate an exit plan to make the transition to life without the pacifier smooth and healthy for your child and you.   

If you do plan on using a pacifier, we can discuss ways to do this in a healthy way for your child.